Their death left you empty; leaving just hollow echoes of their memories. They died without warning, they didn’t even say goodbye. You’re so angry that you’re fighting the tears; you’re so sad that you’re angry, personalizing them passing as a way God failed you. “It was their time”, you’re thinking what the hell does that mean. It means it was time for them to go on a journey that didn’t include you. It means that their spirit became more valuable than their body. It’s okay to mourn the loss, but try to focus on all that you have gained. Their presence is still present, all they have meant is still meaningful; you don’t have to touch, hold, or listen to their voice to keep them close to your heart. Celebrate all they were by celebrating all you are. I know, you remember the fights that were so important then that mean nothing now. I know, you remember their words that meant nothing then, but mean everything now. Take a deep breath, that’s the process! They say everybody mourns different, but the same things arise just at different times. Allowing the tears to pour down your face is not a form of them being erased; it’s you accepting they are gone but never forgotten!!!!
He said, she said, who said what…. We can pretend to look the other way, but we have ears on both sides. We could leave the room, but word of mouth travel s faster than any human’s ability to walk. So we sit and listen….sucked in by every syllable, swallowed by each word; digesting the controversy, but half of it is lost in the toilet. By the time you burp it back up there’s just a scent of what was actually ingested. Gossip is a story half told, a truth that has been embellished, or vengeance from the opinion of an emotion. It’s the soap opera of life and it’s the reason why soap operas have life. We watch and talk about everyone’s life to entertain ours; lacking the compassion to be passionate; the more tears, the more to talk about; the more fighting, the healthier the feed-back. We’re drawn to hate being dramatized, playing the critics and adding what we would or wouldn’t have done; suffocated by all the information, smothered by all the pain, but revived by the idea that it will continue. Word of mouth is good, but not when it takes words out of others mouths. We gossip because we have nothing better to do; we gossip because we want to feel better than you!!!!
When did we stop looking for true love and giving into one night stands that promise improvements? which never happen! When did we stop going after what we want in a mate; instead of commit to people with a good heart or potential, but no passion or romantic love, just the safe bet? When did our rules change because we have been so battered and bruised that we become the batterers and bruisers? When did life become so short that we are willing to settle for less just to have companionship? When are we going to start interviewing prospects, but not hire until they are what we want and reflect what we are worth? When are we going to stop holding on to the past of who he or she was and start seeing who he or she is? Bottom line is, if you have a person that you never want to close your eyes around and can’t wait to wake up as soon as your lids shut; a person that you start to find everything you hate in others cute in them; a person that you look in their eyes and see forever; and hearing their heart beat assures you that your dream has come true; hold on to it! If you don’t have it in your life, stop what you have been doing and start stalking true love!!!!
Tonight while waiting for my flight (which was delayed an hour), I was charging my phone, listening to music, and reading and commenting on several blogs. A girl walked over to me and asked me if she could share the socket I was using. Of course I said okay; then she asked if I can watch her phone. Now, where I am from people can’t be away from their phones for five minutes, and they are definitely not asking a stranger to watch it. Again, I said of course; she walked back across the room, pulled out a book, and started to read. My heart was warmed by the amount of trust this person had in me to not only watch her phone but respect her privacy, so I picked up her phone and went through the content. Nah, I continued to do what I was doing before she came over to me, but I also began to think about a world that can trust; then I realized, I was creating that world at that moment. I assured that girl that there are people we can trust blindly with our possessions. She was getting a taste of how sweet humanity could be, while I digested the purity of not being treated as a criminal just because they exist. We exchanged smiles, thank yous, and your welcomes and our currency doubled in worth!!!!!
The failure of a relationship varies in reasons, but ultimately it stems from one/two believing it wouldn’t be in their benefit to continue. We can blame each other but it boils down to chemistry. Mix two substances that don’t belong together and it will blow up. We are groomed to put our best foot forward and once in the door show that the other foot has a defect. That advice does get us in the door but it doesn’t keep us there; hence the divorce rate being so high. Society puts a premium on instant gratification e.g. sex, money, and self-promotion, but the gratification will truly come from unity; taking the time to build a connection that will weather the storms, strengthen when tested, and most importantly be an example to link others. Let’s stop using our first date to be liked, and start using them to fall in-love. Allow the person across from you to know who they’re investing in “past”, “present”, and “future”. Let them know where you come from, who you are, and where you wish to be. Use God’s gift of choice to build a relationship that is based on two people merging to share the same lane, going to the same destination!!!!
Why care less when you can care more? Why aren’t we thinking when we were given brains to do so? Reading will not solve the problem, but with each passage lays the key to the solution. Taking the time to understand the messages starts with bringing them to life. We live in a lot of different societies searching for one identity, all the while losing clarity because we refuse to breathe; yet we cut down trees leaving the air scarce, limiting our words, fearing death, and giving the power to those who will suffocate many to see themselves prevail. I write to inform all that no one wins by not caring if others lose. I write to assure all that unity is possible by not being afraid to prove it’s possibility!!!!
I’ll bet against the odds when it comes to love. Having a healthy relationship is a long shot in a society predicated on looking out for itself. It’s rare that you meet a person that truly wants to know you; finding someone who wants you to truly know them is more of a rarity. We attached ourselves to this irrational belief that two people will just merge together without meeting halfway. Meeting halfway consist of: a lot of disagreeing to make common ground, weighing the others past with a potential future, and cleaning out single habits to make room in the closet for their stuff; that is just the surface. Spiritually, it will take: being courageous enough to express day to day thoughts (whether hurtful or not), factoring someone else into decisions for the duration of your life, and most of all “challenging” each other to give their daily best. Love is a belief, but logically managed!!!!